3 Habits to Help You Cultivate a Resilient Marriage

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Show Notes:

I’m not a marriage expert.

But, for whatever reason, I’ve seen a lot of close-up relationships that didn’t make it. I’m not in their shoes, and I’m not here to judge.

But, if there is one pattern I’ve noticed, it’s that the adversary attacks marriage with stealth. That means, in order to combat his efforts, the key is to work through things before they reach the point of critical mass.

Do you intentionally

  • check in with your spouse about your marriage, connection, and relationship?
  • grow yourself and face up to how your baggage affects the people in your life?
  • notice the positive and remember the good?
  • tackle each other’s burdens together?
  • communicate your expectations and priorities, rather than assuming or wishing for more?
  • spend meaningful time together?
  • leave and cleave and commit to being on each other’s team?

β€” Not when things go bad, but on a daily, regular basis, even when things are going well?

In today’s episode, I talk about what some of these practices look like in my own marriage, and introduce the following three habits to help you cultivate a resilient marriage:

  1. Recognize that duty is romantic. (A.K.A. Commitment is romantic.)
  2. Make emotional intimacy non-negotiable. (Making time to connect is not just nice; it’s necessary.)
  3. Know and grow who you are. (Continue to develop your unique strengths and talents. Own your weaknesses.)

Episode One-Liner: Choosing each other is a daily habit, not a one-time event.

Episode Action Item: The 10-minute challenge!! Spend 10 minutes every day in high quality, uninterrupted, unplugged, meaningful conversation with your spouse.


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14 thoughts on “3 Habits to Help You Cultivate a Resilient Marriage

  1. Oh I am so looking forward to listening to this episode. I am sure like the previous ones, you and Joe have made it anecdotal and informational. And I AGREE with each of your points. GREAT ADVICE. My favorite will have to be the line commitment is romantic!!! INDEED!!

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  2. Excellent, needful reminders, Jenny! I am fortunate to have married a man whose parents modeled the importance of the marriage relationship. Once we view marriage as sacred, and not disposable, we are on our way. We need the commitment to work it out, and not give up when life gets hard. Best to marry the one you would rather spend time with anyone else. That person needs to be the love of your life (after the Lord), and your best friend. (Your post just brought out the marriage counselor in me–I’m feeling inspired to touch on this subject again myself). God bless you sweet friend! β™₯

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    1. Oh Jacquie I so look forward to reading your thoughts on this topic! I didn’t know you were a marriage counselor ❀️.
      I love the way you put that – “not disposable”. I think that’s exactly what it is.
      It’s almost a polarizing topic because in the past divorce meant losing everything – your reputation and standing, your family and friends… My prayers go out to those individuals who feel obligated to stay in an abusive relationship, because I don’t believe in that at all. And I also recognize it’s not my place to say whether or not divorce is “merited”.
      But I do miss that idea that marriage isn’t disposable!! So important.

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